MY EXPERIENCE WITH LIFE !!!!

 जीवन के दिन छोटे सही, हम भी बड़े दिलवाले, कल की हमें फुर्सत कहाँ सोचें जो हम मतवाले, ये ज़िन्दगी दर्द भी है, ये ज़िन्दगी है दावा भी, दिल तोडना ही न जाने, जाने ये दिल जोड़ना भी, इस ज़िन्दगी का शुक्रिया, सदके मैं उप्पर वाले, जीवन के दिन छोटे सही, हम भी बड़े दिलवाले ! कल की हमें फुर्सत कहाँ, सोचें जो हम मतवाले What a lovely song. This song has become my inspiration since the day I heard it. Whatever day (good or bad day) shall pass so enjoy every moment of your life!   Also, do not think too much on anything. If you got something good, do not show your excitement to whole world as if you have won the battle. Also, if you have not got something which you want to have, do not become too desperate to get it. As I always says, whatever you deserve and if you do your part of work you will definitely get it. No one can take from you. This is what I feel. I do not want to force someone to follow my rules. If someone has better thought, please do share. Let’s learn f...

अगर घर वाले कुछ काम को मना करते हैं तो हम उस बात को मानते नही मगर कोई पड़ोस का कोई टोक दे या मना कर दे तो हम दस बार सोचेंगे की करें या न करें और अक्सर हम वो काम करते ही नही जो दुनिया मना करने के लिए कह्ती है ! कितने अछे हैं हम लोग ! :-) अगर हम औरों की बात न मान कर जो अपने दिल मैं है या जो हम करना चाहते है अगर हम वो करें तो ज्यादा खुश रह पायेंगे और कुछ बेहतर कर पायेंगे ! मैंने अक्सर देखा है जब मैं कोई काम खुद से करती हूँ तो बहुत अच्छा कर पाती हूँ और मुझे बहुत अच्छा महसूस होता है ! अगर मैं दूसरों की सुनती हूँ और वो काम करने के लिए अगर सामने वाला मना कर दे और अगर मैं नही करती तो मुझे एक तो बड़ा बुरा लगता है दुसरा हर समय ये ही लगता है की अगर कर लेती और अच्छा वो जाता तो कितना बड़ी सफलता मिल सकती थी. कभी भी ये मत सोचो की अगर हमारा काम ख़राब हो गया या पसंद नही आया तो दुनिया क्या कहेगी. जब हम मुसीबत मैं होते हैं तो क्या दुनिया हमारी मदद करने आ जाती है? नही ना ! उल्टा ये ही बोलते हैं की क्या ज़रुरत थी इसको ये काम करने की ! मुझे एक कहानी याद आ गयी इस बात पे. एक बार एक आदमी अपने...

On one fine Sunday, I thought of watching movie. I switched on my TV and was looking for a movie to watch. Suddenly I saw one scene of old movie which made me to give a thought to it and I started watching it further to think of that thought. It was a movie of Vaijanti Mala and Dharmendra. Vaijanti Mala was dancing with Dharmendra and Vaijanti Mala was in dress which was almost as if she has worn nothing. The point here is when Dharmendra was dancing with her he was not having any dirty look on her. They both were dancing and enjoying. They were neither husband wife, nor boy-friend / girl friend still they were enjoying the dance without any bad look on each other.  Now, movie name doesn’t make a difference here but the thought which made me to think on something has a point. The point here is Vaijanti Mala was in a dress which people now days think is modern dress. And our modern society says girls should not wear modern dress as it diverts man’s mind.  Also, the...

Seems I have lost all my patience with respect to every matter. Why I am becoming so impatient? I think each day I am facing some or the other problem which is out of my control and thereby I am becoming so impatient. Also, my reason of being impatient is dealing with people who are not matching my level of understanding or I expect too much from everybody or vice versa.  So what is the solution? The solution is either I have to adjust my level or I have to decrease my expectation. I have also to accept that each individual nature is different.   One more thing to add on is, I have to understand how to adjust according to the situation and I need to increase my level of understanding so that I become more patient while dealing with different individual. Are you with me? 

In my first job, I had a boss whose  behavior was very weird. I mean I felt that way :-).  Now I want to explain you why I am saying like this. Correct me, at the end, if I am wrong.  The thing is, during my 1st job, I had to follow my boss instructions blindly whatever work he was giving to me reason being I was a fresher and I had no exposure of working under anybody. I know it is the case with every body but everybody doesn't get the same boss like the one which I got.  The problem with my boss was if I was not doing what he was expecting from me, he was saying to me "why can’t you use your brain" and when I was applying my knowledge, his comment to me was always like "don’t use your extra brain". I could never make out what should I do until I changed my job :-). For him, my confusion or you can say problem was not his concern. I think he was right too. Why should he be bothered about my feelings? I have no rights to expect nice behavio...

I was reading the book when my door was knocked by somebody. As I was alone at my home I was scared to open the door.  Lots of thoughts were coming to my mind.  Who is it, why that person has come at this time, and what that person needs. Anyhow, as that person was continuously knocking the door I had no choice of doing anything except asking who that person is. And you all will be surprised to know it was street dog that was just using his paw. So sometimes we are worried of the things which may or may not happen.  Do not get the assumption beforehand.  The Learning is, do not get afraid of the things which may or may not happen  :-)

What should I do when nobody listen to me? What is toughest task of my life? What is goal of my life? Why do I do what I do?  These questions keep on ponding in my head every now and then and to my surprise I do not have answers of all these questions. More pathetic is when I say something and the other person do not respond properly. Do you face the same problems? I guess yes. Most of you must been in a same state as I am. If not then you are the luckier one than me :-) Do you have solutions for it? I don’t have. I feel somewhere or the other it is my mistake if people don’t listen to me. I think I do not communicate properly or I have some higher expectation than the other person can deliver. Also I feel the toughest task of my life is to meet all my expectation and fulfill the expectations of others. Why do we humans are like that? We want everyone to be fulfilling ours’ expectation rather than we meeting others expectations.  I always think if I make goals ...

Is there anybody who hasn't gone through any hardships in life? I don’t think so. I think everyone has some or the other sort of struggle in life. But everyone feels that his/her struggle was greater than anybody else. In-fact instead of that everyone should feel like that he / she is the luckiest to have better life than others. Courageous man is one who comes up as a winner after crossing all those hurdles in life. “Duniya main kitna gum hai, mera gum kitna kam hai, logon ka gam dekha to main apna gum bhul gaya” this is the famous line of some movie. Sorry I am not recalling the name right now but I really like this song.   J Now I want to share my experience of life where I had faced lot of challenges. One time I was so depressed and I wanted to commit suicide. But you know it is so easy to say or think of committing suicide but it is really very difficult to commit suicide. I mean I can’t have that much daring. I do hear now a day’s people commit suicide...

What is an Ego? To my knowledge, ego is a state where people hate the behavior of the other person when they do not get the expected response which they are looking for from the other person and give it the name of Ego.  I do not understand one thing when, people whom you deal with, are not behaving the way you want them to, why do you say that they have ego problem? On the other hand, when same happens with you meaning when others’ expect the same from you, you feel they have ego problem.  Now who has ego problem in this scenario? Also, you do not make any efforts to remove the ego from your life rather than you feel other person should behave as per your choice.  Why?  My dear friends please do not expect too much from others and do not give it the name of ego.  Think twice before you give it the name of ego of unusual behavior of someone else. Are you not doing the same thing with others? I feel everyone should have ego but to an extent that i...